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The Weight



At the start of 2016, something huge happened!!!  No, I didn’t receive a multi-million dollar TV/Movie deal (Yet) or won millions in the lottery.  Its much more fulfilling than that…It’s spiritual.  I’ve know God for as far back as I can remember.  But I’ve never felt as close to him as I do today.

In January, I had my yearly checkup.  And the one thing that became apparent was how much weight I had gained.  I was disgusted at how I had let myself go.  I felt like throwing up right there in the Doctor’s office.  Instead I decided to listen to my doctor and make some drastic lifestyle changes.

The changes we agreed to included what I ate, how much I ate, when I ate and to start moving/exercising. Believe it or not, I was once an athlete back on the day.    Yep, I played High School & College Basketball. I was actually pretty good to.  So believe me, I know what it feels like to be in shape.

At the same time I was forced to look in the mirror.  Asking myself, “What was it that was causing me to over indulge with food?  “What was eating me? Talk about a moment of clarity, Why was I killing myself with food? Why was I responding to life’s challenges by emotionally eating? No one had a gun to my head making me eat unhealthy.  So, why was I making bad eating choices?

Talk about a Aha moment…Standing there at that very moment, I had to accept who I was.   And yes, I know I’m God’s beautiful black daughter, with gifts and talents tucked away…hiding behind all of the weight.  I was Three hundred and thirty pounds of unwanted, unhealthy, unattractive, depressing weight. Yuck!!

I believe in order for this to resonate with folks I must be real… So excuse me if this grosses any of you out.  Being transparent is not always pretty but its necessary that you get the full picture.

God was waiting on me to become the person that lives behind the weight. I needed to seek him for a “Now” kind of faith, strength, courage, and clarity; to deal with the reality of not paying attention to my health.  You see as long as I could package myself up nicely (snatching it all together), making the outside look good.  I thought I was ok.  But what you didn’t know was, I felt horrible on the inside. I personally don’t know one fat person that is truly happy being overweight. I blamed my “weight” on everything and everybody.  This would also include the things that didn’t seem to happen for me.  In my mind, it was all because of my weight.  I hated my weight.  My weight became an excuse for me not to deal with my own shortcomings.

Everything hurted! I had aches and pain, my hair was thinning, my skin was changing.  I knew that there was something wrong with me.

Through God’s word I was provided with the spirit of truth.  John 16:13 (NIV) 13 But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.  That truth was the defining moment that I needed to “take action”.

I could no longer package the weight the same and I couldn’t wish it away. I felt a shift and knew that I had to make the changes necessary to live.  A change requires work as a decision implies action.  So, I begin to change the food I ate. I watched the times I ate and how much. I would pray more intensely and I started meditating to hear the answers from my prayers.  Meditating allows me to be still and listen for the voice of God. It’s the sweetest sound I’ve ever heard.

Well, since that defining moment, I’m happy to report that I’ve lost 33 pounds. I believe losing the weight was a byproduct of what happens when you trust God’s plan for my life and have the NOW kind of faith that he has supplied all your need.

Philippians 4:19 (NIV) And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.

He’s revealing more and more to me; about me.  I love this journey and I hope that I’ve encouraged someone that has the same struggles.

Proverbs 3:6 (NIV) Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.  Ask God for guidance.  Remeber, you’re not waiting on God…God is waiting on you.  Make the connection to whatever is weighing you down.


Love You!








“A thousand years from now…what damn difference will it make?” By Thea Camara

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This is a quote from my great great Aunt Priscilla.  She was a woman of few words but when she spoke, what she said was likely to be thought provoking. 

It wasn’t until later in life that I came to an understanding about what this quote means to me.  She would often say this when things didn’t go as planned.  I guess it was her way of saying; when things don’t go your way…in time it won’t make a difference. 

We focus so much on the small things in life that we tend to miss what’s really important.  For instance, what would this world look like if we focused on helping one another instead of tearing each other down?  And how about doing that without looking for anything in return?  Wow what a concept! I somewhat disagree with my Aunt’s statement.  I believe that when we help each other be…

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Aspiring Actors – This Is For “YOU”!


Hello Everyone

I just had the most amazing phone conversation with my friend Casting Director/ Acting Coach Wendy Mckenzie. She offers acting workshops throughout the United States but have never been to Chicago. We decided it would be a great idea to partner up and bring Naturi Naughton from the Starz hit series ‘Power’, along as our special guest. This extraordinaire workshop call THE POWER OF THE ACTOR will provide tips and tools on how the actor can learn to manifest the power within.

…if anyone is interested please click the link below and/or leave a comment for further details: